You Can’t Make Everyone Happy, and That’s More Than OK
Style can be overwhelming.
There—I said it.
This thing that I find so much inspiration in can be a burden when I'm in an indecisive mood standing in a store, floundering over which top I should buy because it is the MOST IMPORTANT decision right then and there.
Style and fashion are also, in their own way, the most wonderful things in the world. I’ve found over the years that my shopping habits, the clothes hanging in my closet and my attitude towards outfits are about more than just looking good: These are things that serve as gentle reminders of life lessons that call to attention the kind of person I have the power to be.
One of the things I continue to learn is that there is a way out of the overwhelm. The solution: let it be ok that everyone isn't happy and that you aren't listening to everyone's advice.
Today, it is easy to fill up on opinions on what to wear without actually feeling like you've gotten any help. Even professionals I've asked for seasonal trends from recently have told me it's hard to say what is trendy and what isn't because there aren't really "trends" anymore—you can wear anything you want.
Rather than listening to, say, 20 voices out there, pick a couple of blogger accounts and fashion websites you admire that show a style you aspire to. Read their posts, take a look at what they are wearing in photos and note things you would like to try. Then, let the rest go.
And when you start feeling like you've seen too many things or your wish list is getting too long, put down your phone, close the laptop and take a few minutes to breath. Then, by yourself, analyze what you need and what you would be most excited to buy right now. Then, joyously shop till you drop.
After all, the point of having so many choices out there is to actually make fashion fun.